Men, how to secure your love to a lady

I always find that guys are not sure how to express their love to their lady. There's once I overheard some guys saying that women are contradictory. At one sec, the say it's okay for him to go out, and the next she got angry over him going out with his friends till late night. Sometimes, she wants independence, and when he gave her independence, she thinks he didn't care much about her. Women are such a contradictory animal huh? Yes, we are. I admit that, cz sometimes, even we ourselves don't know what we want. Tell me about moderation. You'll never reach the equilibrium point. You would always fall on either extreme. Yeah.

But I just realize recently, actually what women wants needed most from their men. Well, at least women for the circle of women that I knew.. what they want most is the reassurance from men. Dear men nation, you have to understand, women does compare- more often and about more things than men does. Even as simple as walking past a hot sexy lady would lower her self-esteem like crazy. Simply giving reassurance to her that you would love her the way she is, would boost her confidence in the current relationship and thus decrease her fickled decision about what she wants. Simple gestures like holding her hands, kissing her forehead or giving her flowers once a while would be more than enough to show your love to her.

I don't know, that's what I think what women want most. If you realize your women acts/dress recently, you may perhaps want to secure her in this manner. By that way, she would be less 'clingy' and feel confident about you going out without her and also her position in your heart. If I would have a partner, I don't constantly want assurance from him like everyday - which is too much. But well, once a while, to feel that you're appreciated is what I would want from my man. Even like those simple gestures, or preparing meals or giving a small lovely note is enough to make my day wonderful.

Well, men.. I hope you would read this and understand it. Even you're the coolest, cutest, hottest, or richest man in the world, should you not give any assurance to your lady, she may not have open her heart to you much.

Shhh... Just keep this between us okay?

Someone actually sended porridge to me this morning in my room doorstep. I was really breally touched. I mean yeahh.. I didn't expect anyone would have cared about me when I'm sick (oh cozz... except my lovely mom) but aside her, generally no people does.

I still remember how fustrated and agitated I am last night. Thinking of how inconsiderate my friend was - to expect me to make him feel better for my sickness. I mean, tht time I was like WHAT THE FUCK? (sorry... no better words can explain how angry I am tht time :C ) Like I'm the victim now. I am the patient. And you expect me to make you feel better by telling you.... it wasn't yr fault la.. blablabla. Not that I didn't explained how I got contacted this illnesses earlier. Omigosh. I was so angry tht I literally not feeling to talk to him at tht moment. I still remember how I shouted (okay... I mean sigh loudly) in my room yesterday... re-reading the message he sent to me - trying to make sense tht does this person have some or little empathy?? Well, he did suggested to tapao some porridge to me. I declined tht offer, although I really wished I could have some porridge :( . Perhaps he was saying tht cz he felt bad or whatever, and it may not be his real intention anyway...Also, considering he doesn't have any transport.. I really doesn't wanna bother him. Plus.. I was worried tht this stupid flu thing will get contacted to him... esp we're having an important meeting the next day - where he's the chairperson...I remember i woke up in the middle of the night few times- haivng 'hot flushes'. Still very angry and fustrated about this thing.

Then it was not untill this morning... when I was half drowsy... someone sent a message to me. When I checked it. It was him. Telling me tht he had left some porridge in front of my room. When I first read tht... I actually pinched myself. I mean... is it true? Are you kidding?? I mean tht was what I wanted the other night... and here it is. A hearty porridge from a friend. I was overly excited tht I sit calmly on my bed thinking tht did I told this person tht I wanted porridge last night? Or how did he firgured it out? Aiyohhh.... Abit dazed and..... touched la. Hehe.... at least there's a friend who cares about me. :D

And because of tht, I'm feeling much better now... just abit of flu and thts all. You see.. tht's the miracle of LOVE (I meant friend's love)

P/s: I also acknowleged Y's intention for buying me liang cha and hor yan hor.... Seeing her worried face about me, and I didn't wanted to talk to her.... makes me felt a little bad. Why I don't wanna talk to her? Tht... I reserve back to myself. I would like to thanked all these people who cared about me. I really think it was a great motivation for me to heal. HEAL!!

Sick sick sick!

Just got some stupid contagious flu from some gangs who doesn't use 'protection'. you know... if your whole gang got sick cz one person.... you shud know, that illness is contagious. and when you know it's contagious, wear that damn mask or don't come to school or sit farrrrrrr farrrrrrrrr away from others la! BODO! if you don't have a mask, blow a condom and put on yr head la. for fucking sick! I just hate it when people always think wearin mask is a stupid thing. It was from the stupid 'stigma' to wear mask that H1N1 outbreak was so vast recently. This people, goes to university, but mentality ? Damn low. INCONSIDERATE INCONSIDERATE INCONSIDERATE! FUCK ALL THESE PEOPLE.

Aside from releasing my damn tension bout this fucking people... was that.... wanna confess what i wanted most when i got sick. I wished that someone who cares me. Like you know.... check out bout me once a while... Like how my mom used to do... checking my tempreture when its time and make hot porridge for me and etc.like a nurse in a hospital... I tend to be a little dependent when I'm sick- so unike me huh? The reason was that I wished to know that I still worth living so when I'm sick. There's no surprise that I heal faster when I'm not sick, it eases my pain by much. *sighh* but who wants to do this kinda thingss aside from yr mom. I don't even know. BUt i hope this person will come someday....

I would have fall for you if I weren't in love with someone

A sentence that a guy throws to me this afternoon after helping him out transporting the un-used table to another friend's house in section 17. Lol. Perhaps, he said it out of gratitude rather than he really meant it. But, whichever way.... it still felt good to me. I mean, at least I weren't unloveable considering my not-so-attractive outlook. I still have a place in the market. Therefore, i shouldn't be so desperate. Because I'M LOVABLE I'M LOVABLE!!!

p/s: i am wondering what's wrong with me. I'm not preparing for my exams. Man, i just got too confident with my results.

I wanna forget you

Each time, I wanna forget about you, why hope appears? I seemed like as if you know I'm trying my very best to forget you? And you, the devil unconciously luring me fall back to my previous state again. Or is it my subconcious simply doesn't want to forget about you? I don't know. I seem to be psychologically fighting between myself.

Sometimes, I think as if you're too coward to walk toward the stage and save this injured ballerina infront of the crowd. What are you afraid of? The crowd's evaluation or the rejection from the ballerina? You this indecisive and ego person. Really makes me really fustrated. Why don't you think in another way? You may be seen as a hero and received standing oviation from the crowd. And the ballerina will happily fall into your arms?

Sometimes, I would contradict myself. I keep reminding myself. This is one sided love. Is what you think. IS what you believe that he likes you. You're just too desperate to see anyone to fall in love with. Perhaps. Perhaps, I'm really an idiot. Baka-desu! Perhaps I'm the patheticly-injured-ballerina whom longingly waiting for the never return prince.

Prince, if at any chance you read this blog. Please be more courageous to step forward and do what you fear not to do. Be courageous. No girls admires guys cowardice.

Ah.... in the end. I guess. Maybe I've been thinking too much. I should forget you and stop waiting.

Perhaps, its actually a dreaming ballerina fantasy.

Unidentified - LOVE

Love, Undefined (The Problem About Marriage)

Sacrifice, Partnership, companionship, being together, care of each other, think of each other, value and respect…. Is it enough to define what love is? I guess, all these are pretty much brief and has bring out the meaning of LOVE at face value. By the way, the type of LOVE that I'm referring here is the love of your partner (boyfriend or what so ever). Although I'd never been into a B/G relationship yet, I guess I gained some insights from my friend's experience as well as people around me throughout these years. The question here is; how do you say when you LOVE someone? What does that mean and how does it supposed to feel like. I'd asked this question time and time again to different people. And in general, they simply answer me in ambiguity and vague. Some of the top 3 answer:-

1. You simply feel good being around with them
   
2. You think of them often
   
3. You wanna have sex with the

Given some thought about it, is what LOVE really meant then? Isn't all these reasons people in general provide is little too vague? And does when people provide vague answer meant actually they themselves doesn't know how it REALLY felt like to be in love? In my opinion, I believe love is something more than these 3 reasons. You see, you're most probably gonna feel this way for the next few decades towards this prospective partner, and do you think this reason is still valid for years to come? Wouldn't this feeling just get old and soon withered away? Just like new furniture in your house, after 6-7 years, you seem to barely notice it actually exists since you'd get used to it being there for a while.

The reason why I brought up this question is that I see nowadays; most of the marriages end up divorce. And most of the reason were due to external affair ( on either party). Well, the question is why? These episodes are getting more and more common as if it is a ritual for most marriages to end up divorces. I wonder what happened to the vows you made in front of the many who had attended on your wedding day or the countless "forever" you use to express how much you care for each other. Who were to blame? The non-stop-nagging wife, or the seldom-speak-up husband or the wolfy-third-party?

Some time ago, I read from a book; the author state that since LOVE is some lifelong commitment, so both parties should have strong common ground. As in, you both do agree on certain things, do fetish of some similar stuff, or simply have the same goal in life. This may in a way helped you both so see eye to eye and avoid many unnecessary conflicts. Although there may still be some difference in certain aspect (which otherwise you had just married to a mirror), make sure the difference are kept as little as possible. Can you imagine living with a person who has so many things that is so-not-you for the rest of your life? Are you going to tolerate him/she (come on, we're talking about for decades man; you may say you'll change but how far can you change?). At times, you may not agree with certain things he see, but you respect his point of view. Well, this may be something important to take not about. So, next time whenever you see two couples spending time together window shopping at the mall, don't be jealous but rather pity them. Because they has nothing else better to do than buying things ( wasting $ ) together. Their relationship is rather empty. Think again, do you think the guy enjoy spending hours choosing the right clothes or even bra with for his partner (he may rather watch football or play Dota at home!). As for the girl, she may think her guy doesn't really give any good criticism on the clothes she chooses like her friends. "Oh, how boring!".

So I guess rule 1 in choosing a right prospective partner should have strong common ground. Like, they have the same hobbies, liking, and interests. And that is where communication elements start to play role in understanding each other. Otherwise, what are both of you gonna talk about if you don't share any similar interest? Think about it and share your opinion with me. Btw, this is my personal opinion. I have not really dated someone and so, I may simply end up like the couples-going-shopping when I really dated someone. Who knows? It's too early to say anything. ^^

The Fredo Talk

The Fredo Talk
a talk about BGR in Guys' perspective

Just got back from library... Recently, I'd spent most of my time in the library - sleeping. This had seriously never happened to me. The ussual me can just study and revise what I learnt attentively in library. But recently, I guess because of that thing. Oh well.. Vic says is normal. And I guess so~

-FREDO- hey.. if anyhow you know this guy, please don't let him know i posted his pict on my blog. :)

Yup yup... this Fredo talk I had this evening was awesome. I somehow get to see different perspective on what guys actually look in girls.

RULE 1:
appearance are important.. Like really really important. I even remember once Jo told me that body comes after brain. So, if anyhow you looked little out of shape... too bad for you. Your chances are slim compared to those have bigger melons or more gorgeous feature. Lo and behold... Don't become sulky of what I'd just say cuz, I'm in the same boat with you. There just as many victims in this boat. Bon voyage! Haha....

RULE 2:
sex comes before love. I don't know how Fredo explain this because its too vague for me to understand his explanation. Well, it happenes at times. LOL. But the main thing is, if they like you, they will imagine having sex with you. Wow.... aren't that scary????
but, Fredo makes me realize one thing. This guy perception thingy changes after some time. You see, not ALL gorgeous girls have gorgeous attitude. We need to understand guys are kinda stubborn species And so, let them play around a while and then settle down.

RULE 3:
betrayal pissed them off. So girls out there, don't wanna being called a slut or whore or bitch, keep your assess clean. Most guys can't forgive if they found out you multidate for whatever reason. :)

RULE 4:
you both have to see things in the same way. I like Fredo's metaphore. You have to see things from the same window or at least same side of a building. Get it? Ok, put it in simpler way. Like both you and your partner have to have the same liking, interest, topic, bla bla bla.... I have to emphasize here that this thing is not about pure tolerance. You see, you have to really have the same liking as he does. Then, you will enjoy the relationship together.

analysis part: i don't know why fredo mention interest as the last rule. but, i guess i get it. physical appearance comes 1st in whatever reason. sex are important for guys too..... The difference older guys and younger... oh well... Fredo called it mature. Okay. Mature guys and less mature guys see sex differently. Mature guys only have sex with people they really really love.

However, I personally think this depends on individual. Some people might simply see their partner or prospective partner in different ways or the other. Well... Now, it makes me wonder what Crown see in girls?? Wonder~ I somehow know, he prefer people who talk only important things and be mysterious. And he also admitted that you can't have both. LOOKS & BRAIN at the same time (although, sometimes you may strike a jackpot or whatever....). But, that doesn't prove anything right??? He might just be the same as Fredo. LOL.. Having sex with Crown. I really can't imagine it. I can think of watching anime, study, playing piano, talking, holding hands with him. BUT Sex? OMG~~

You laugh because I'm different...........
I laugh cause I just farted!